i had no intention of going this long without blogging. it just sort of happened. this past weekend was a busy one. my mom was in town friday and saturday to hang out and help out. on sunday we took our first small family road trip to cincinnati (a nice halfway point) to meet up with travis’ family for a picnic and to hand over auggie doggie for a little while. we found that with sylvie’s colic and travis’ schedule (two jobs+full time grad school) that our pup wasn’t getting the attention he deserved. enter my in-laws who offered to take him for a few weeks until sylvie’s colic passes and we settle in to our new hectic schedules. he is also getting some much needed training while he’s there. he has a few bad habits that need to be broken with a baby around. barking at another dog on TELEVISION while sylvie is napping (no easy feat) a few feet away will not do! luckily, he is generally very gentle around her. he can get a little over-excited from time to time and that is worrisome. he would NEVER intentionally hurt her, but he has almost jumped on her a few times out of excitement. the bottom line is that auggie is a good dog and with training he will be a great dog. thanks, mom and dad for helping to facilitate this!

colic, colic, COLIC. where do i start? i am home with her by myself six days a week, and she does not like to be put down. she is hurting and just wants to be cuddled. who can blame her? the good thing is that she is starting to go down much better at night thanks to a new bedtime routine and soothing methods.

nursing has been a nightmare lately. she tries so hard to nurse, but it triggers her gastrocolic reflex so strongly that she screams immediately after swallowing. it is an uphill battle to get her fed. thank goodness she will take pumped milk from a bottle with very little trouble. it is not ideal, but she gets breast milk one way or another and that it the most important thing. hopefully this will pass in another six weeks or so. we’re just taking it one feeding at a time and trying hard to read her cues to figure out what she needs. we are both trying our hardest. i am trying to be as patient as possible and she is trying her hardest to nurse successfully. as soon as she pushes off, she tries to re-latch. you can almost see the determination in her sweet little face. it breaks my heart to see her in pain like this. the three of us can’t wait for this to pass. in the meantime, i’m drinking a ton of organic mother’s milk tea to keep my supply up (it’s been a little on the low side for a week or two now) and filling the freezer with milk as much as my supply will allow. i can’t wait until i can nurse her exclusively again. sigh. we’re getting through it one day at a time.

back to that new bedtime routine. now that sylvie is approaching six weeks we’re keeping the same routine every night. at around 9 we give her a warm bath, a calming massage with some lotion, change her into her bed clothes, swaddle her, dim the lights, nurse or bottle feed her, turn on the white noise machine, and rock her until she is drowsy. all of this take us up to a 10:30 bedtime. we try to lay her down when she is very drowsy, but still a little awake so she’ll learn how to self soothe. we do not let her cry it out, nor do we plan to. however, we used to pick her up every time she fussed or cried. we now know that this is a step backward for her. now we walk over to her crib when she fusses and rub her back, shush her, and give her a pacifier until she calms herself back down. this method has made a world of difference in our home in just two nights. she went from sleeping for an hour at a time to going down the entire 3-4 hours between feedings. last night, for example, she slept from 11:15-3, 3:30-6:45, and 7:45-10:15. never has three consecutive hours of sleep felt so glorious! next we’re going to start working on naps during the day. our girl is NOT a good napper. she’ll fight sleep all day long every time we put her down. however, she will nap for hours at a time in the maya wrap. i LOVE babywearing (that deserves its own post), but there are certain things i just can’t do while wearing her (cook at the stove, shower, etc). any nap time tips are appreciated. wish us luck!

as for me, my incision is healed and i’ve finally (TMI ALERT) stopped bleeding. the emotional scars left behind by my c-section, however, are another matter. this too deserves its own post. it’s a post that is difficult to write, and i have been putting it off. i want to write it out for catharsis and i will…soon.

okay. enough of that. it’s time for me to sneak in a shower while travis is home to hang out with milky-moo (her newest nickname). have a happy tuesday!


6 responses to “busy.

  1. Awww. Your honesty is refreshing.
    Thank you for writing even though it’s probably the last thing on the list! You are making a wonderful mother, and Silvie is so beautiful!

    Hang in there! 🙂

  2. wishing that the colic will pass soon…sorry it has been hard for you guys.

  3. I know from my own experience with Sophie how terrible colic can be. Sophie started screaming everyday at 3pm sharp and didn’t stop til she passed out from sheer exhaustion approx. 7 hours later. Nothing helped, nothing. Rich would hold her on his lap on her belly and pat her back for hours on end. Wow, it was truly horrific at times. However, once the colic passed at about the 12 week mark (which seems to be the age when most every baby I know who has had colic finally starts to feel and act better), Sophie was the nicest and best natured little girl on the block. We walked thru the hell of colic and got a child with a fantastic personality on the other end. I don’t want to be all doom and gloom, as it is hard to say anything positive about colic, but hang in there. It will evntually pass and Sylvies smiles and giggles to come will make you forget all about it!

  4. Johnny and I are always so thankful for a new baby, but we also think that the first 4 months are the hardest. Once you make it past that 4 month point, things just get so much easier! So hang in there! It can get pretty hard some days. Evangeline has been our only “easy” baby so far. After the first two, I seriously didn’t know God made babies like Evangeline!

    I have loved the book “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child”, and it has helped me to know how many hours of sleep baby needs, what the biological sleep rhythms are, appropriate bed times for each age, and so many other sleep related topics. Very helpful stuff! And if you don’t want to let them cry it out, you don’t have to! 🙂 He has different methods and you can choose whatever you like.

    Good for her sleeping so well last night! The swaddle blanket, plus a paci, plus a sound machine make for good sleep! 🙂 I remember how good it feels to sleep 3 straight hours! Hope it’s another good night!

  5. my son was also colicky, until he was about 4 months old. it’s not fun, and you have my sympathy. i remember my husband and i marching circles around our house, for hours on end, in hopes that he would stop crying. the one thing that he really enjoyed was sitting in our laps on the front porch watching the cars zoom by. i guess it was a mix of the sights and sounds that helped lull him into a more peaceful attitude.

    gage loved his swing. that was the only thing we could use to get him to sleep for long periods of time. in fact, he slept in his swing until he was 16 months old. yeah, imagine that. a 16 month old child, swaddled and buckled into a swing, sleeping there for 9 hours at night. i mean, towards the end of his swing-age, he was at the point where he could crawl into it and buckle himself up. the transition to the crib took about a week (but that’s another story all together.) gage is now a well rounded, very intelligent, almost 3 1/2 year old. i’m all about doing what makes your child happy. the swing made gage happy, and in return that made me a very happy mama.

  6. Good luck with the colic. I am lucky to have avoided this with my baby! I, too, have some emotional baggage with my c-section. So much, that I am already worried about the next baby, which is years off! Hang in there, I’m told it does get easier.

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